A life operating system lived out with a small group of men to help you walk closely with God, live with clarity and purpose, and follow through on what matters most.
And most don't live with the purpose and intent they desire to.
There is an ache in a man to matter.
To build. To create. To lead. To protect. To take risks. To bless others. To give his life to something greater than himself.
That desire isn't the problem.
The problem is what happens to it.
A lot of Christian men have stopped dreaming about what their lives could become. They've lost touch with the desires God has placed in their hearts, or they've been taught that ambition is selfish. So instead of dreaming, discerning, and taking action, they settle for what's safe. Comfortable. Familiar.
Life gets busy, the years move quickly, and the fire slowly goes dormant. But we weren't designed to go through life aimless. God gave us a mind and real authority in this world.
They set goals and grind toward them, but their ambitions aren't flowing from a life of abiding in God. They build the company. Make the money. Improve the body. Buy the house. Gain the status.
And sometimes they achieve what they wanted. But they're still hungry, because goals can't fulfill a man. Self-help can't. Habits can't. Only a living connection to God can.
Life gets busy. Responsibilities pile up. And somewhere along the way, it's easy to lose touch with what God has placed on your heart.
A man can win professionally while losing his marriage.
Build wealth while ignoring his body.
Lead everyone else while neglecting his own heart.
Stay busy serving while barely remaining in God.
Left to fear, most men build their goals around money, and then their weeks get planned around work and money, while what makes them feel alive and whole gets put on the back burner.
A man living in stress and defend mode is often on his toes, with few moments of creativity or freedom. It's nearly impossible to live out what God assigned you from there.
When you stop paying attention to the gifts and desires God has placed in you, it's easy to let years go by without doing anything with them. And even if you achieve everything you set out to do, you can still feel empty. Because if you're constantly striving to prove yourself, find security, or feel like you're enough, no amount of success will satisfy you.
When was the last time you stepped away from the busyness of life to reflect on who you're becoming, what God is stirring in your heart, and where you're headed?
Abide & Aim helps you build rhythms of abiding in God, understanding who He's made you to be, and intentionally pursuing what matters most, all alongside a group of men committed to doing the same.Here's what that could look like in your everyday life.
Instead of moving through life without clear direction, you take time to discover your personal assignment, define your values, and prayerfully consider what God is calling you to pursue in this season.
Your goals are no longer about proving yourself, earning acceptance, or controlling your circumstances. You learn to pursue meaningful things from the freedom of already being loved by God.
Instead of giving your family whatever energy is left after work, you intentionally invest in your marriage, your children's formation, and the relationships God has entrusted to you.
Rather than letting work consume everything, you regularly examine the different areas of your life and make intentional adjustments where something needs attention.
You build practical habits, track your commitments, and learn to do what you say you're going to do. And when you fall short, you adjust without letting shame take over.
You're surrounded by men who know what you're pursuing, understand where you're struggling, encourage you, and love you enough to hold you accountable.
You make plans and pursue them diligently, but you learn to hold them with open hands. Instead of constantly living for the next achievement, you become more attentive to God and the people right in front of you.
You begin paying attention to the desires, gifts, and opportunities God has placed in your life. You make room to dream, create, take risks, and pursue things that stir your heart.
When men realize they want something different, they often reach for another system.
Those things can be useful. But a system simply pours gas on whatever is already burning inside a man.
You set goals to gain control over your circumstances and protect yourself from what might go wrong. Money and security become your primary focus.
You chase achievement to earn acceptance or prove to yourself and others that you're good enough. But no amount of success ever feels like enough.
You depend on your own strength, discipline, and ability to build the life you want. The weight of making everything happen rests on your shoulders, and eventually, it wears you down.
Most systems are built to teach you to rely on yourself: your willpower, your focus, your ability. That only gets you so far. And most men try to run them alone, so when the motivation fades, nobody is there to help you do what you said you were going to do.
A good operating system can help you set goals, build habits, and stay accountable. But no system can give you the life you're looking for. Only God can. That's why everything in Abide & Aim begins with and continually returns to abiding in Him.
“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”
John 15:5
Jesus tells us to remain in Him.
To stay.
To dwell.
To abide.
Goals, disciplines, and habits apart from Him won't produce the fruit we were created to bear, and they won't give us the deeply satisfied, overflowing life we want. Proximity to God has to come before productivity.
But abiding does not mean passivity. God has given you a mind, gifts, resources, relationships, responsibilities, opportunities, and agency.
The Apostle Paul understood this. He worked tirelessly to advance God's Kingdom, but he knew his strength came from God, not himself.
“For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that he powerfully works within me.”
Colossians 1:29
You are meant to steward your gifts, energy and resources.
You are meant to act.
You are meant to build.
You are meant to bless.
You are meant to participate in what God is doing in the world.
This is the tension Abide & Aim is built around.
Remain in God. Let your identity, desires, ambition, decisions, and vision be shaped by His presence.
You don't set goals to become someone.
You get to set goals because you already are someone in Christ.
You work from love, not toward love.
You aim from gratitude, not entitlement.
You act from hope, not fear.
“Remain in my love.” John 15:9
Take responsibility for the life God has entrusted to you.
Use your mind. Make plans. Set goals.
Practice discipline. Do hard things. Keep your word.
Pay attention to your marriage, family, body, relationships, work, money, faith, and the people God has placed around you.
Not to prove yourself.
Not to manufacture significance.
But to participate faithfully in God's work of restoring and blessing His creation.
“For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that he powerfully works within me.” Colossians 1:29
Abide without Aim can become passivity.
Aim without Abide becomes striving.
In your first 90 days, you'll build:
Your God-given mission, expressed in your own words.
A clearly defined personal assignment.
3–5 core values that guide how you live.
A 5-year vision across nine life domains.
Annual and quarterly goals with clear milestones.
A personal scorecard to track your most important habits.
Daily and weekly rhythms for reflection, prayer, and intentional action.
A group of Christian men committed to friendship, honesty, and accountability.
Group challenges that push you to grow and take action.
A clearer understanding of your God-given gifts, strengths, and how you're uniquely wired.
Practical teaching and exercises to help you abide in God, attend to His presence, and live from a place of dependence on Him.
Get clear on who God made you to be and what He has entrusted to you.
Before deciding what you want to accomplish, you need clarity around the man those goals are flowing from.
You don't have to manufacture your purpose. It's the same for every man, revealed in Scripture. You'll put it in your own words so you can live it.
How you live that mission in this season, written in one line: “In this season, I am called to [verb] [people or place] so that [result].”
3-5 conviction-driven values that guide real decisions. Like “Honesty: tell the truth, even when it costs me.”
Greater awareness of how God has uniquely equipped you.
Everyone's ultimate mission is the same. That isn't discouraging. It's freeing. Within it, God gives each man an assignment that fits his gifts, wiring, circumstances, and skills.
Give direction to the life you're trying to faithfully build.
You don't need to predict the future or control every outcome.
You do need to stop drifting.
You'll prayerfully develop:
You cast vision from a spirit of discovery, not defense. These are aims held with open hands. You set direction in the presence of God, take responsibility for what He's entrusted to you, and stay willing to adjust as He leads.
Every goal has to pass one test: can you answer “did I complete this?” with a yes or a no?
Don't set a goal to plan the thing. Set a goal to do the thing.
Turn vision into action you can follow through on.
A vision only matters if it changes the way you live.
You'll turn your goals into:
The scorecard isn't a shame ledger.
It's a truth ledger.
It shows exactly what you did, not what you hoped to do. If you follow through, you can tell whether your plan worked and adjust. If you don't, you'll never know.
Live it out with men who know you well enough to challenge you.
Abide & Aim is lived out with a small group of Christian men who meet every week for one hour of honest accountability, encouragement, wisdom, and problem-solving.
They know your goals.
They see your scorecard.
They hear where you're struggling.
They help you identify what you're missing.
And they hold you to the commitments you chose to make.
Your vision, goals, habits, and daily rhythms aren't just for your work. They're meant to help you intentionally steward every area of the life God has given you.
In Scripture, your soul isn't simply the invisible part of you that leaves when you die. It's your whole person: your will, mind, emotions, body, and relationships.
The nine life domains apply a rule of life to all of it, shaped by the way a first-century disciple followed his rabbi: be with him, become like him, do what he did. Not so every area is perfectly balanced, but so nothing important is left unattended for years.
So you can see what is flourishing, what needs strengthening,
and where God may be inviting you to grow.
We'll talk about where you are, what you're looking for, how Abide & Aim works, and whether the group is a good fit.
Book an Intro CallOver the guided 90-day launch, you'll personalize your mission, write your assignment and values, cast a 5-year vision, set annual and quarterly goals with milestones and habits, start your scorecard, and learn to run the system with your group. Go deep. Don't hurry.
Keep meeting.
Keep abiding.
Keep telling the truth.
Keep doing what you say you're going to do.
Keep adjusting your aim.
Keep becoming more of the man God made you to be.
Morning: pray through your assignment, values, annual and quarterly goals, and scorecard habits, then review your day and listen for the Spirit's promptings. Evening: write tomorrow's Big 3 and mark your scorecard honestly.
Name how God protected, provided, and guided you. Total your scorecard. Ask Him to search your heart. Plan your to-dos under all nine domains, star your Big 3, calendar them, and pick one way to break the script.
Same agenda every week. Open in prayer. Share a personal and professional win. Screenshare your scorecard, done or not done. Report on the group challenge, give an on-track or off-track update on your quarterly goals, and share how you led your family's faith this week. Then end by solving issues together.
Start with fifteen minutes of prayer and silence. Celebrate what God did, write what you learned, rate all nine domains, and set 3-6 measurable goals, each with milestones, an obstacle, and one habit. Your group gives feedback on every one before you commit.
[Testimonial needed: a man naming the abide-before-aim shift. He had goals before, fueled by proving something, and something changed in how he sets them now.]
[Testimonial needed: a before-and-after in his own plain words. What his marriage, work, or mornings looked like before, and what they look like now.]
[Testimonial needed: a man who tried a summit, retreat, or planner that didn't stick, and this is the one he's still running.]
I built this because I watched good men either bury what God put in them or spend it on a kingdom the size of their own life, and I did both before I learned the difference.
Years of work on my own heart taught me that a system can manage behavior but it cannot give life. And what a man believes about how the world works shapes every goal he sets. I don't want to help men get good at achieving goals that will never fulfill them. So Abide & Aim starts with remaining in the vine, then aiming with everything you have.
The men who run it aren't looking for another program. They want to be known, held to their word, and told the truth by brothers who won't let them drift.
You leave with your written mission, assignment, and values, a 5-year vision, annual and quarterly goals, a working scorecard, and a group that keeps running.
Book an Intro CallMost men have already paid for the planner, the retreat, the summit, or the 90-day challenge. Those things were built to be completed. This one is built to keep running.
After the guided launch, your group continues meeting weekly and gathering quarterly with the same agendas, and you'll already have completed one full cycle, so you know exactly how.
The goal isn't another program you finish. It's a way of life you know how to continue.
No.
You will set goals. You will plan. You will track habits and practices. You will measure whether you're following through. But those things are not the point.
A system can help manage behavior. It cannot give life. Only God can do that.
Abide & Aim helps you remain connected to the source of life while intentionally stewarding what He has put in your heart and in your life domains. The goals and habits aren't the end. They're a means to God.
It can be.
The question isn't simply whether you're ambitious. The question is what is fueling your ambition and what you're aiming it toward.
Ambition fueled by fear, shame, entitlement, or self-glory eventually becomes destructive. But the desire to build, create, lead, serve, take risks, and bless others can be a beautiful expression of who God made you to be.
We don't want to kill the fire in men. We want God to make it holy.
Because the operating system isn't the whole solution.
Most systems ultimately depend on your own motivation, discipline, focus, and willpower. Abide & Aim continually brings you back to dependence on God and puts you in close proximity with other men.
Your group knows what you said you were going to do. They know where you're struggling. They know what you're carrying. They know where you're drifting. And they love you enough to ask about it.
You tell the truth. Then you learn.
You are not more loved by God because you checked every box, and you are not less loved because you missed. But grace doesn't require pretending.
Your scorecard helps you see what actually happened with no judgment, so you have an accurate view of reality, receive wisdom from your group, and make adjustments.
One hour on Zoom with the same agenda every week: prayer, a personal and professional win, a screenshare of your scorecard (done or not done), the group challenge, an on-track or off-track update on your quarterly goals, and family headlines on how you led your family's faith and your kids' character.
Then thirty minutes on real issues: identify, discuss, solve. You leave with action items for the week.
Each quarter your group picks one shared challenge, either from the challenge list or one your group creates. You report on it every week, and if you don't complete it, there's a consequence your group agreed on. It's simple, a little uncomfortable, playful and fun, and it bonds the group.
Abide first. Then act anyway.
Action creates craving. When you keep choosing hard, meaningful things and experience progress, your brain learns to anticipate and desire them. When you constantly feed it easy, immediate rewards like social media, nicotine pouches, or porn, it learns to chase quick stimulation instead.
You don't always have to wait until you want the right thing to do it. Through repetition, you can train yourself to want what's worth wanting.
Yes. You can start a group with guys you already know, or be placed in a group of 4-6 men. We'll talk through which fits on your intro call.
Both. Your group meets for one hour every week on Zoom, and gathers in person for a half day every quarter and once a year to look back, rate all nine domains, and set goals together.
About ten minutes a day, a weekly planning block plus a one-hour group meeting, and a half day each quarter.
The goal isn't to spend your life managing your life. The goal is to become intentional enough that you can give yourself fully to the life in front of you.
No. But Abide & Aim is explicitly Christian.
Jesus isn't simply one category in the operating system. He is the foundation underneath all of it.
You don't need perfect theology, perfect habits, or a perfectly ordered life. You do need a desire to know God, become more like Christ, tell the truth, take responsibility, and let other men into your life.
Talk with her before you start. Share why you want to do this, listen to her concerns, and invite her to help shape your vision for your family.
Abide & Aim isn't about adding another commitment at your family's expense. It's about becoming more intentional with the life God has entrusted to you, including how you love, serve, and lead your family.
That's a big part of what the intro call is for. We'll talk through whether to start a group with guys you already know or be placed in one, so you start with the right men.
If something isn't working during the guided launch, tell your guide. Honesty is the whole point.
It may be more for you than you think. The goals aren't the point. They're a means to God.
Set with open hands, goals help you live curiously, break the script of ordinary life, and shake off apathy. You don't need to love planning. Imperfect action beats perfect inaction.
The guided launch ends. The rhythm continues.
The first 90 days help you build your Abide & Aim system and establish the kind of group culture required to actually live it. After that, your group continues meeting, planning, reflecting, challenging one another, and running the system together.
You can keep living the way you have been, making plans on your own or drifting without direction, and hoping next year is different.
Or you can remain in God, get clear on who He made you to be, and aim your life with guys who won't let you drift.
If you don't do something different, you'll keep getting the same results.
Thirty minutes. No pressure, no pitch.